Street/Museum Synthesis
I’ve always sat cross-legged. Car seats, love seats, restaurant booths—no matter where I sat, legs were crossed and often pulled up to my chest—sort of a makeshift fetal position. As I got older I began to wonder if referring to this as ‘Indian style’ was offensive as I originally thought. Lying down in public places was never an option. Standing, on the other hand, required too much effort. My family’s weekly journey to any number of Catholic churches proved to be the sole exception. Christ Our Redeemer, Holy Name of Jesus, St. Michael’s. Here, feet (once their respective legs were long enough) rested gently on the floor. Sitting during mass was a random treat, a reward; it was the state in between prostrating on one knee, kneeling entirely, or standing up for periods of time that (with knees locked) asymtopically led me to the point of passing out. Even sitting lost its simple pleasures, for during that one hour every week I had to imagine a string beginning at my spine, widening, separating, and raising my shoulder blades, lifting my gaze up to the Lord from my confinement in the McKelvey pew of choice, front row, dead center. Eventually I take a hiatus (just a hiatus, I promise my mother) from Catholicism, save for returns home to Florida during which I pretend not to mind the silly masquerade. With relative ease I am able to once again adopt the act of genuflection before bracing myself for the mindless mouthing of still memorized beats of responsorial psalms.
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I had no idea what to expect when I walked into the mosque in London last week. The three key factors I had always previously used to identify a place of worship (crucifixes, pews, and guilt) were nowhere to be found. Nothing within reach is remotely familiar. Remembering that there is a cultural center on the second floor, I flee the courtyard, pass a sign advertising The Koran Watch (which the poster describes as the perfect gift for every occasion), and make my way up the steep two flights of stairs with little effort—my sixth-floor residence at Brasenose College has provided my legs with good training. At the top I find myself in a library of sorts; a sense of calm washes over me. Any doubts I had about my right to ‘tour’ the mosque were absolved; with books, magazines, and other various periodicals neatly divided up by language closing in on me at every angle, I was in a place where I was supposed to be intrusive. Even though I’d walked into the mosque in my typical I affirm all religions that aren’t Catholicism stance, I am incredibly eager to begin the process of reconciling my respect for Islam with its attitudes towards women. As luck would have it, the appropriately titled ‘Women and Islam’ nearly leaps off of the shelf and into my arms.
The book smells of the musk common only to books that spend their lives sitting idly on library shelves—often glanced at, perhaps even skimmed, but rarely read. I wade my way through the cerulean carpet and recline in an uncomfortable wooden chair by shifting my weight in such a way that only the back two chair legs remain grounded. I clutch the desk in front of me with my left hand while desperately trying to flip through the pages so I can see what chapter follows ‘Contraception: Because the Koran Says So.’ My initial disappointment that none of the following chapter titles make some sort of pun on ‘Women’s Sectuality’ is eased when I begin to recognize coffee stains tainting the corners of nearly every page, little tell-tale signs of readership. A grin carefully masks my face as I realize what I had earlier mistaken for the musk of idleness might actually be remnants of decaf. A male voice begins to breathe heavily into the intercom before progressing to murmuring and eventually articulate speech—urging everyone to leave the cultural center and attend afternoon prayer—interrupting this portion of my voyeuristic cultural retreat. I didn’t quite feel comfortable praying in the mosque, so I decided to meander about the lobby for a bit, hoping to continue on my relatively progressive mosque experience.
A leaflet prominently displayed on a bulletin board catches my attention with its fuchsia pie charts and equally exotically colored maps. Surprised initially by its loud appearance (it has been my experience with churches that God prefers earth tones), I am pleasantly surprised to find the content equally shocking. The maps are not an abbreviated geography lesson but instead illustrate the demographics of people affected by HIV/AIDS in communities highly populated by Muslims. Abbreviated paragraphs on either side offer advice on protection, testing, and a contact list of local and international AIDS-related organizations. Before today, I don’t know that I’ve even been to a place of worship that even acknowledges the presence of AIDS. A male voice interrupts my reading yet again, and I wish I had made more of an effort to conceal my annoyance when it turned out not to be the distant asthmatic employee over the intercom, but another gentleman standing no more than two feet away. I sheepishly spin around upon hearing Spencer respond to the voice, at which point my gaze is met by the image of this scruffy grinning mosque employee, clad in a well worn outfit of a blue t-shirt and jeans, each of which had complimentary white paint stains. His hair seems anxious to escape the confines of his face, pointing in an array of directions, but perhaps most prominently at the incongruously impeccably organized toolbox he toted in each hand; he appears to be a perfect mix of chaos and order. The traces of paint clinging to his clothes appear to be random, but not accidental.
I have a love/hate relationship with talking to strangers. On the surface, there is nothing that appeals to me more than great conversation with the most random of people. The trick, it seems, is navigating myself out of my own awkwardness so that casual diatribe can evolve into the meaningful discussion I so desire. The presence of Spencer next to me makes it somehow easier (the company of three, I find, is often less conducive to awkwardness than the company of two) to communicate, and within two minutes or less of conversation, all thoughts of potential awkwardness are long forgotten.
‘Where in America?’ he asks.
‘Texas,’ says Spencer, which I quickly follow up with ‘Austin—the good part of Texas.’
‘Aaa,’ he grins. ‘You need to get away from Bushie. Junior and Senior. Here,’ he begins to scribble down his contact information, ‘you come stay with my family in Kashmir. Can you drive?’ Spencer nods yes. ‘Can you cook?’ I say I’ll try. ‘Ok good. Then you can have the keys to my jeep. Just don’t let my parents cook for you, ok?’
What I originally assume to be a kind offer in jest ended up being the most genuine of encounters—before Spencer and I leave the mosque he insists that we write down our contact information. As nice as this offer is, both as a point of entry and point of departure, not until he shares his religious philosophy with us do I carve out a special nook for him in my emotional memory. The man’s kind words of affirmation help me reconcile some of my own issues with organized religion; they begin a process of personal healing. His shared words easily bandage some of the wounds I’ve ignored.
I find solace and comfort in my new friend’s overwhelmingly simple (and somehow equally profound) religious philosophies. He glances intermittently at his watch before pausing to stage his own philosophical monologue, which he successfully reduces to the following components. His views consist of the following components:
Do not attempt to convert people. People should be allowed to believe what they believe. But if one is going to make the (often risky) decision to declare a religion, one should live it to the fullest. That is, if one is Christian, be a good Christian. If one is Muslim, be a good Muslim, etc.
The purpose of religion is for connection. We need to keep everyone connected. If our most spiritual state isn’t attaching us to other people, what’s the point?
It’s all about yoga. Seriously. Yoga all of the time. In the car, while eating, while swimming. This life, this religion, this faith—they all require constant yoga.
Before Spencer and I head outside to reconvene with the rest of our group (and before he makes one final insistence that we visit him in Kashmir), he speaks the words that have the greatest effect on me. It seems simple enough, but he looks me in the eyes and says ‘Religion is all about peace.’ Spencer and I both laugh and respond with our own renditions of ‘Well, I mean, theoretically, I mean, it should be.’ For the first time in our fifteen-minute conversation with him, he isn’t smiling. ‘No,’ he says. ‘It has to be.’
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Never am I so aware of the ways in which Catholicism permeates my daily life as when I visit my parents’ house, where poorly taken pictures of me, squinting at the obtrusive sunshine that ignites the stained glass while receiving each of the sacraments, are still proudly hung on the walls. I still pray at family dinners, but I make it explicitly clear that I am not performing The Sign of the Cross and omit gendered pronouns and direct references to the Holy Trinity. But simple omissions and refusals one month out of the year do not erase eighteen years of early morning masses followed by CCD. Creeds and hymns (Latin and English) do not independently erase themselves from my memory. It happened even today. Walking down High Street, in search of chips and cheese (my new daily communion), I hear an ambulance siren in the distance. I drop to my knee. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. Without even thinking, I end up blessing myself while genuflecting on a street corner, re-enacting the action I had learned as a reflex from traveling with my mother. Car accidents, sirens, a young mother who appears to be having a hard day, all of these moments are deserving of our prayers. We drive by the scene and bless ourselves simultaneously. I sit in the passenger seat; legs crossed.